Jacob
PSAP | MRRC
I know the weight
of the secret &
the pain of walking alone.
For years, I lived a double life.
To the world I appeared to be managing, but beneath the surface I was drowning in a cycle of isolation, lying and hiding.
I spent a long time attempting to white-knuckle my way to freedom, only to realize a hard truth: you cannot heal what you are unwilling to reveal.
When I started, my only goal was to stop the behavior. I thought if I could just "will power" or "self-control" my way to sobriety, I would be fine.
But everything changed when I shifted my perspective from "not acting out" to holistic health and embracing the life God had for me.
Recovery isn't a finish line I crossed; it’s a way of life I imperfectly practice every day.
While my life looks radically different than it did during the years of hiding, I no longer settle for just being sober. I pursue health: spiritually, emotionally and relationally.
I’m done hiding. This journey has given me the strength to be seen exactly as I am—by God, by my family, and by myself.
Now, my mission is to help you move past the crisis of "stopping" and start the work of becoming truly healthy
My Expertise is rooted in experience.
My approach bridges the gap between the raw, lived experience of a survivor and advanced, specialized professional training. I provide a structured roadmap for men ready to trade the exhaustion of hiding for the strength of integrity.
PSAP Candidate: As a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional Candidate through IITAP, I provide specialized, pastoral care for those navigating unwanted sexual behavior and pornography compulsion. Graduating July 2026.
Master Resilience & Recovery Coach: I specialize in helping men build the resilience muscles necessary to move past the initial crisis of discovery or disclosure and into a life of lasting wholeness.
I am not a clinical observer standing on a hill; I am a fellow traveler who knows the terrain.
Whether you are in the first 24 hours of a disclosure or you have been stuck in the cycle for decades, I am proud of you for being here.
Your story is not over.
The hiding can end today.
still Not sure if we’re a good fit?
That’s completely normal. Taking the first step can feel heavy, and sometimes just hearing someone’s voice makes all the difference.
Check out the Brazen Recovery Podcast to get a better feel for who I am, how I approach recovery and how I roll—no fluff, no judgment, just raw truth.
Not a fan of my style? That’s fair! But don’t stop looking for help. Recovery isn't one-size-fits-all, and there is a huge spectrum of resources and professionals out there—surely one will suit your fancy. What matters most is that you keep moving forward.